The 5 Pillars Of Empowerment

The 5 Pillars of Empowerment is a proven blueprint for transformational work to create the relationships and empowered life you have always dreamed of having.

As the core foundation of the Fiercely Empowered Coaching System, the unique system I use in all my coaching programs, the 5 Pillars of Empowerment are integral to the success of your journey.

As the cornerstone to finding your voice and reclaiming your power, the 5 Pillars of Empowerment are a set of tools is a tool you will use transform yourself and your relationships so you can have a life that exceeds your wildest dreams.

Read each section below for a brief overview of the highlights of each pillar and then schedule your complementary Step Into Sanity Breakthrough Session to learn how you can implement them into your life right now.

Pillar One: Take Care Of Yourself

In relationships, it is so easy to focus on everyone else and forget to take care of yourself in the busyness of life. Husband. Kids. Work. Family. Friends… It is important to take care of yourself and your needs so that you do not face burn-out by depleting yourself too much. Self-Care is what allows you to continue caring for others. At the end of the day, were your needs met? 

This Pillar is focused on:

  • Helping you discover how to take care of yourself in the face of other people’s needs that pull on you
  • Teaching you to say no when you mean no instead of yes to avoid upsetting another person
  • Learning about your own needs, possibly for the first time
  • Knowing your own needs are important so you can make decisions that are congruent with taking care of yourself and others in a healthy way 

Using this Pillar in your relationships, you will be able to:

  • Take care of yourself because you will know your needs and how to balance your needs with the needs of others
  • You will be able to feel powerful enough to ask for what you need without the fear of rejection
  • Take time for your own self-care, making sure your needs are met
  • You will know how to take care of your own needs, especially when others won’t, for whatever reason

Pillar Two: Set & Keep Boundaries

Often, there is a lot of anxiety around setting boundaries in relationships for fear the other person won’t love you or will be angry with you if you don’t do what they want. Are you walking on eggshells trying to keep the other person from being angry? It is necessary to have boundaries in relationships and set expectations to keep from disappointing yourself and others.

This Pillar is focused on:

  • Discovering your core values
  • Learning what you will and will not allow
  • Knowing what you are willing to tolerate and not willing to tolerate
  • Discovering what you truly want in life so you can set and keep boundaries that allow you to create the relationships and life you desire.

Using this Pillar in your relationships, you will be able to:

  • Set and keep your boundaries even in the face of another person’s negative reaction
  • Have certainty in knowing what is important to you so you can set and keep boundaries
  • Always be grounded in your core values, especially when circumstances arise that cause you to question your boundaries
  • Integrate the skills of setting and keeping boundaries so you feel safe and respected when you stand up for yourself

Pillar Three: Protect Yourself From Abuse

We often think of abuse as physical, getting hit. Abuse is also emotional, verbal, financial, sexual and even psychological. We can experience abuse in many relationships from intimate to parents/family to co-workers/bosses and even friends. It is important to recognize the often-overlooked ways you are abused by the people you care for the most and how to stop tolerating abuse you are aware of, even if it seems mild or like no big deal. Any abuse undermines your self-confidence and damages the balance of power in relationships that are important to you.

This Pillar is focused on:

  • Learning about the six types of abuse and how they show up in relationships
  • Assessing any abuse you experience in your relationships that you haven’t noticed
  • Discovering the system you are in with your spouse that is not working
  • Knowing how the system works to keep you stuck in the system
  • Learning about why you stay in unhealthy/toxic, even abusive relationships, continually trying to fix the other person

Using this Pillar in your relationships you will be able to:

  • Transform any abuse you are experiencing in our relationships
  • Become empowered to step out of the systems you are in and create healthy ones
  • Transform your false beliefs, thoughts, and patterns from dis-empowering to empowered ones that help you no longer tolerate unacceptable behavior
  • Find your voice and reclaim your power so you are seen and heard
  • Protect yourself from all types of abuse whether it is overt or covert

Pillar Four: Radical Self Acceptance

“I fully love and accept myself, no matter what.”

Practicing radical self-acceptance is not easy. You may believe you accept yourself but, in your heart and mind, you judge, criticize, blame, second-guess everything you do and every decision you make. You can be tempted to avoid noticing these internal self-rejecting messages by binge watching tv, overeating snacks, shopping, drinking or doing drugs too much. Even caretaking others can be a distraction from hearing the negative voices of self-rejection. Being in unacceptance of yourself can even paralyze you from creating the life you really desire. And you are not alone…most people are doing this, daily. It becomes a habit we do not notice.

This Pillar is focused on:

  • Bringing light onto your false beliefs and patterns from past traumas that helped create self-rejection within you
  • Transforming co-dependent behaviors that keep you stuck in unacceptance of yourself
  • Discovering how self-rejection has helped create unfulfilling relationships, self-sabotage and unhappiness

Using this Pillar in your relationships, you will be able to:

  • Learn to truly accept and love yourself despite your perceived shortcomings
  • Use your new beliefs and patterns to accept yourself even when you “fail or make a mistake”
  • Transform how you think of yourself moment-to-moment so you are living from an empowered place in all your relationships

Pillar Five: Forgiveness

Ah, Forgiveness… How do you forgive someone who has betrayed you? Cheated on You? Abused You? Left You? The list could go on and on. Of the 5 Pillars, this is the hardest one for most because forgiveness is synonymous with forgiving another’s behavior. Forgiveness is the last pillar of the journey to finding peace and serenity. Transforming the other pillars first makes space for you to forgive yourself and others, which is the ultimate key to loving and rewarding relationships and life.

This Pillar is focused on:

  • Learning to forgive yourself for the ways you let yourself down
  • Forgiving the other person or persons who have hurt you, let you down and used you
  • Deeper discovery of false beliefs and patterns from past traumas that keep you in unforgiveness
  • Learning to acknowledge your feelings and allowing them to flow through you

Using this Pillar in your relationships, you will be able to:

  • Truly forgive yourself for the past and into the future
  • Forgive the other person or persons for the past and into the future
  • Decide if you want the person who hurt you to be in your life
  • Live a life full of peace and harmony, knowing how to handle your feelings

The Goal: A Healthy, Empowered Life

With the goal of transforming your relationship with yourself and others, The 5 Pillars of Empowerment work together to create harmony within yourself so you feel worthy and good enough to apply all the 5 Pillars to your relationships and have the connection and love you have always craved.

Throughout the 5 Pillars, we will work with your false beliefs, patterns and programming that contribute to the systems that keep you stuck in unhealthy, unfulfilling relationships.

We will work together to transform your survival behaviors with thriving habits that will allow you to create a happy, loving relationship or know if it is time to let go of this relationship and venture onto a new one, coming from a healthy and full place. Either way, whatever choice you make, you will be living an Empowered Life and using the skills, strategies and tools you now have from the 5 Pillars of Empowerment every day!

I love helping women like you on their journey to an Empowered Life and Relationships!

Find out how the 5 Pillars of Empowerment can change your life for good by scheduling your FREE Step Into Sanity Breakthrough Session by clicking HERE now.

Much Love,

Facilitator In Training